The last two years have been a roller coaster ride. If you asked me while in the storm that I was okay, I would have told you no. I would have gone on about how I am losing so much in this season. I would rant on how it was not fair. Complain for days in and out. That is literally how I felt in my heart. In 2018 and 2019, I lost family, friends, positions, some things I hold close to me. I was hurt and questioned God over and over again why and how could this be happening to me.
Sometimes we hold on to things. We don’t want to let them go for our own personal reasons. Whether it is comfort or beneficial to us. We think that what the person, place or situation that they are irreplaceable. We secretly put them on a pedestal in our hearts because we just know that their service is good for our life. Comfort will lead you to think that all is well. Comfort will have you thinking that there is no wrong in toxic people, relationships and situations. Comfort will accept the trauma as a means of it being right because you are used to it.
We sometimes never take into account that the pain and hurt in our adult experience may very well be from the traumatic experiences we have had over the years. We want to say okay to the abuse. We want to be okay with giving the trauma a backseat and never face it. But there comes a time where you will need to face it to get better. Trauma will tell you that you are okay. Trauma will have you complacent in your toxic traits. But seriously there is a call, a purpose, a life waiting on you to heal. You will need to accept that it happened and find a way to overcome it. Ignoring it will not help you as you evolve to a better you. We get afraid to go through our healing process thinking of what we may lose along the way.
Something comes with healing that we never pay attention to because quite frankly it is painful. We lose a lot when we are pushing through a season of facing our trauma. As we are overcoming the obstacles, we begin to grow and lose parts of us that may have been used as a defense. We lose family and friends who do not serve the new us God is working on. We lose the toxic heart traits we had. We lose the old us who we felt like took up for us in the hurt. We then feel like all is gone.
But, really the reality is that you have to let go of the loss. It was taken away by God for a reason. We have to remember that in Ecclesiastes God says there is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens. Meaning that there is a reason and a season for everything that comes in and out of your life. It may take a while to figure out where and how you will overcome the pain and hurt in the season but just know it all is working for your good.
You have to remember that the loss is not a loss if God is in it. Things are never a loss when God is making a move. It is always to make you better whether it is in character, strength, wisdom or love. God is a protective God and wants to see you win in all areas. He has designed purpose for you and everyone and everything does not fit in what God has for you. That is okay.
It’s a Win, Queen!
Anything that you hold to your heart feels like a loss when it is removed. But, your Father sees and works behind the scenes when you are not around. He has a plan for each move. You have to trust that each move is one for your good. Let me tell you it is. Putting your faith in God for your family, friends, children, environment, career, job, purpose can take you a long way because the truth is we do not control it. We do not hold controlling power over others and situations, we can only pray over them. And, when time is up, it is up. Your winning streak is arising as you build your tunnel vision on God and what He is actually doing in your life. Focus on spending time with Him and talking with Him about the loss. What you think you may have been a loss in one season may be a reason for the win in the next. Stay encouraged! Just know that you are a winner if you are still waking up each day; God has more for you!
Scripture to keep you encouraged:
A Time for Everything
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:
a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.
Hebrews 10:35-36 Therefore do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you have need of endurance, so that when you have done the will of God you may receive what is promised.
Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.
Romans 8:28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
Worship song that can help you feel encouraged:
Something Has to Break - Kierra Sheard ft. Tasha Cobbs Leonard
Blessings to your winning journey,